Sustainable Success Nudge from Your Future Self:

💬 “Forcing change through New Year’s goals and resolutions is a By Me strategy. Creating conditions for change is Through Me self-leadership.”

Let me be direct—before you get too far into this new year.

If you’re already pushing, forcing, or “trying to be better” to start the new year—stop.

The way most people have been taught to start a new year almost guarantees exhaustion and quietly sets them up for failure.

New Year’s resolutions fail for a very simple reason:
They ask your existing self to force its way into a new life.

And force rarely wins.
It’s the hardest way to create change—let alone sustainable change.

Here’s what I see happen over and over again:

On January 1, people set their goals or resolutions and lock into By Me energy.
If it’s got to be, it’s up to me.

More discipline.
More effort.
More control.

They force their way to their desired outcomes—layering new habits on top of the same environment, the same schedule, the same mind chatter, the same inner pressure.

Then reality hits.

The routine breaks.
Life intervenes.
Energy dips.

And suddenly, people slide straight into To Me:
I don’t have the time.
My work schedule won’t allow it.
I tried, I did my best—but _________ .

So the resolution dies.
And people quietly make it mean something about themselves.

Here’s the truth no one tells you:

Resolutions don’t fail because you lack willpower.
They fail because you’re forcing outcomes without changing the environment—both your external, physical environment and your inner environment.

As an interior designer, I learned a universal truth long before I ever applied it to business or self leadership:

Environment beats will every time.

You don’t redesign a space by pushing harder.
You redesign it by changing what surrounds you—how it supports you, guides you, and holds you.

The same is true here.

If you don’t change:

• your environment
• your energy
• your emotional rhythm
• your inner state

then any goal you set becomes a boulder you’re pushing uphill—hoping it somehow rolls into place.

And this is where the Through Me level of consciousness changes everything.

When goals, desires, and intentions come from Through Me, you don’t force yourself into change.
You create the conditions where change becomes natural.

You adjust the environment first.
You regulate the energy first.
You shift how you’re being—before worrying about what you’re doing.

From that place:

• habits stick
• clarity returns
• momentum builds without punishment

Not because you worked harder.
But because you stopped fighting yourself. You aligned with the frequency of the goals you’ve set and what you’re calling in.

Here’s my invitation for the start of this year:

Don’t only ask, “What do I want to achieve?”

Ask instead:

What kind of environment would make this inevitable?
What needs to change around me—internally and externally—so I don’t have to force myself anymore?
What would it look like to set intentions from trust instead of pressure?
What do I need to create, shift or release so I’m coming from a place of Through Me energy?

This isn’t about lowering standards or settling for smaller goals.
It’s about raising consciousness.

And it’s the difference between a year you survive…
and a year that actually supports you.

Take a breath.
Release the push.
And let this be the year you stop trying to overpower your life.

With clarity (and zero tolerance for unnecessary force),
Melinda